When all is said and done, one problem remains after an elopement: the possibly hurt feelings of the people you know who you did not inform about your wedding. Perhaps this is one of the reasons why you eloped in the first place. In fact, a significant number of couples say they eloped in order to prevent any conflict with their families and friends regarding their marriage. But while eloping may have prevented the initial problem, it will lead to a possibly more complicated mess, especially if you do not deal with your cards right.So how do you prevent drama after elopement?
The point of elopement is the secrecy and urgency of it all, but it would really be beneficial and convenient in the long run if you tell your family and close friends. Of course, the key here is to tell them at a time when no one can do anything to stop you from marrying. Perhaps you can call your parents when you are already in Reno or Las Vegas? This is necessary because it almost gives people the consolation that you, at the very least, informed them of your actions. They may feel a bit betrayed and angry, especially if these people do not want you to get married to that people, but that is unavoidable, something you have to prepare for. Therefore, the least you can do is inform them.
However, you should be selective with whom you tell your secret to. If you tell everyone you know about your “elopement,” then it is no longer eloping. Rather, what you will do is a untraditional wedding ceremony. Also, tell several people can hinder your plans more than you can imagine.
If you plan elope, consider the people you will invite. This is one of the most common roots of conflict due to elopement. Although it seems very shallow, its implications are grave and deep. Who you invite reveals who you think are important in your life; excluding and including people will create tension, even if you make it clear that your decision to elope was sudden. The best way to avoid conflict is not to invite anyone during your elopement. This way, it’ll be easier to explain why you did not invite someone, simply because you did not invite anyone.
How to tell the people that you eloped is also a key factor here. Many couples who eloped do it the formal way to reduce the drama. For instance, you can send cards or formal announcements regarding your union. Organizing a reception after the wedding is also wise, as it allows you to interact with the people important to you, with the chance to clear any conflicts that arose or will arise due to your sudden decision.
When you elope, you are bound to offend or hurt someone, especially those important to you. Dealing with the events after the elopement will reduce these tendencies, but the fact remains that you did elope. Make sure that you can deal with this if you do plan to elope.
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